When you play on a sports team (or even follow one for that matter), knowing the score matters. Not just the total points, but who contributed the most ______________(fill in appropriate sports statistic here), and you hope when the game ends your team has the most points. Why is keeping score so important? Because that’s how you know who the winners are.
Unfortunately, if we take that “keeping score” mentality over into our relationships, it doesn’t work out well. “You hurt me so I’ll make sure I hurt you more”. “I did the dishes and the laundry so you need to pitch in and do your part so we’re even”. “You went to a movie with the girls so I get a night out with the guys.” I’ll bet you can think of things you’ve said or had said to you that show someone is keeping score. I know I have. And I can’t stop it in others, but I can make sure I don’t make it a habit in my relationships. Why? Here’s a good reason:
“Love doesn’t keep score of the sins of others” 1 Corinthians 13:5 (The Message)
And I am so thankful for that. Because there’s no way I’m ever going to even the score with Jesus. His love has made the score for His “team” infinite. So I pray that I do my best to show those I love the same love, grace, and mercy.